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Rizwan Aseem,a Published writer for Business insider and Telegraph spoke extensively about his life and shared these 3 step to getting motivation back when you lost it.Read Also: 22 Simple Daily Habits That Would Make You Look Smarter And Healthier
Here is the 3 step process to get passion and motivation in your life.
Step 1. Identify The Anchor
Just like an anchor of a boat keeps it in one place, there is an anchor in your life that is keeping you demotivated. If you bring this anchor up, your ship will start sailing.
But before you can start sailing you need to find out what this anchor is.
So the first thing you need to do is figure out what is bringing you down. What is it in life that is keeping you from being passionate or demotivated?
The more specific you can become the better. You can’t just say, I’m demotivated about life. That just being lazy. You need to become laser focused.
For me, in my life. I was demotivated about work. I hated work. I was find if I was spending time with my family, or going out with my friends – but just because I was demotivated about work – everything else was suffering.
So figure out what is the “The Anchor” of your life.
This could be the lack of having a girlfriend, or finding work boring, or not having enough friends, or having a sh*tty car.
Whatever it is, you need to figure out what this one thing is. The easiest way to do this is find out what you do all day.
Just write it down in a diary and at the end of the day ask yourself, “Did you like it or love it?”
If you loved it, then this is not it. If you liked it then this is not it. But there will be things on the list you’ll go, “I didn’t like or love this. I wish I didn’t have to do this.”
The ones you’re “bleah” about. These are the ones that are keeping you down.
Write the down on a new paper.
Step 2. Raising The Anchor
Notice how you say that these things are “weighing you down”. They are literally become an anchor to your life.
“Keeping you stuck…”
“Holding you back…”
“Tying you down…”
The only way to raise the anchor is to bring it up.
Now that you’ve identified the things keeping you down lets bring them up.
For each of the thing that you wrote is holding you down, write 3 positive statements about them. These statements have to be in the first person, present tense.
So for me – I hated my work – but I loved my colleagues, I loved the workplace, and the view I had from my desk. It was of the ocean.
So my 3 present tense positive statement became,
– “I’m eager to meet my colleagues at work today.”
– “I’m thrilled to work in such a cutting edge workplace.”
– “I’m elated by the beautiful view from my dest at work.”
These are my examples, use these to create examples of your own for the things that are holding you back.
Write them down. This is very important.
Do this exercise for all the “bleah” things that we identified in step 1 above. If you have a list of 10 things, then at the end of this step you will have a list of 30 positive statements.
Remember, when you’re writing these statements be very specific about what you like, why you like it, and how it makes you feel. Not just that you like it – but use emotional words when describing these statements.
Step 3. Creating New Neural Pathways
Research shows that 95% of the thoughts that you think today will be the same as the ones you thought yesterday. And this process will happen every day.
Your thoughts every day are the same, for the most part. Think of this process as putting down a pavement.
If you have a street that is zig-zagging all the way, you can put as much concrete and tar on top of it that won’t really make it faster. Unless you zoom out, look at the pavement and think, “Oh! This is so bendy. If I straighten it out – it will be much faster.”
Then if you take to the street. Break it down, and then put a new path that runs straight, and pave that straight path. This street will become super fast.
But only if you zoom out and put in the new path. Without the new path you can keep paving the road with the latest technology, and it won’t do anything.
So in this step, we’re going to put in a new path for your mind. Where thoughts can flow super fast. Where the kind of thoughts that you need to be motivated and passionate can flow super fast.
From now on here’s what you’re going to do to make this super fast highway in your mind.
a. You’re going to keep this a secret until you’ve become motivated in at least 2 areas of your life. You will use this technique to develop motivation and passion in you and you won’t tell this to anyone until you’ve actually done this.
b. You’re going to carry with you the list of 30 positive statements at all times.
c. You will read these statements for 30 days straight, first when you wake up in the morning. Then again right after you have lunch in the afternoon. Then again before you go to sleep. And you’re going to read them out loud before you go to sleep.
d. You will not miss a day of reading. If you miss a day, you’ll go back to 0 and start over. So it’s your job to make yourself read every day, no matter what.
This will help your mind form new thoughts. The more you read them the faster they will get embedded in your mind. And by reading them out loud at night, you are also programming your sub-conscious mind which is way more powerful than your conscious mind.
What Will Happen If You Follow This 3-Step Process
This might sound a little weird, and you might have to make sure no one is listening to you when do this process, but here’s what will happen if you do.
You will discover new motivation for doing the things that you thought were too hard to do.
You will find your passion almost instantly. Though you will have to do the work, but when it comes to you – you will be pleasantly surprised at how quickly it came.
Your motivation to do things will rise. You will become a highly motivated and passionate person.
But A Word Of Warning!!!
When you do set out to do this you will encounter some challenges on your way.
The first week you’ll feel great and will want to share this technique with your friends and family.
Resist the urge to do this.
They don’t understand what you do. Even if you explain it to them, they haven’t been through what you have, and they won’t understand this.
This will frustrate you. So the best thing to do is not to tell your friends and family. Let them see the results after you’ve achieved what you’ve set out to achieve. Then they’ll come running after you.
The second week you’ll think that you’ve got this and you don’t need to continue. You’ll say to yourself you don’t need to read this anymore. You’ve got it nailed. You should stop since this is taking too much time.
Resist the urge.
Your brain is making new neural connections, which is a hard thing to do for the brain. It is physically painful to create new neural connections. Your brain want’s you to stop. Just like your muscle screams when you pick up a weight that’s too heavy for you.
But if you want your muscle to grow you have to keep going. Just the same, if you want your brain to actually register these new thoughts that you’re feeding it – you have to keep going.
Push your brain, and stop listening to the voice inside.
The third week the voice inside will say to you, “I’m sleepy, the bed is warm, I can do this in the morning”. The voice will tell you that you already know what you need to know, that you should go to sleep.
Resist the urge.
You’ll often forget to read the statements, since your brain is using all the tricks up it’s sleeve to stop you. Don’t listen to the voice in your head.
Even if you’re half asleep and you remember, force yourself to wake up and read the statements. This is very very important. Skipping 5 minutes of sleep won’t matter in the long run.
Whenever you remember, read the statements immediately, get up out of bed, take out the statements and read them.
The fourth week you will be able to recite the statements pretty much by heart, but every now and then you’ll notice something that you didn’t remember. Think about this statement a little bit more.
By now your brain has made the new connections and is comfortable thinking about these statements. You’ll notice that you’ve auto-magically got a new passion for life and living. Your motivation will be sky high.
Keep reading these statements. At this point, when the week ends, do step one of the 3-Step process, so you can identify new places to motivate yourself.
The more you do this, the more motivated you will become. The more you write out and read the positive statements the more passionate you will become.