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Jeff Sloan a Director of Engineering shared his story online and its a bit captivatingRead Also: Parenting Is A ‘Full Day, All Day, All Night’ Job – Cardi B
I am in my mid 50’s and I will tell you what I most regret and what I don’t.
First what I don’t regret:
- I got married young, I was 22, she was 21. We are still together. I found my lifelong love, and somehow closed the deal. It has not been all sweetness and light, but we have persevered (another thing I don’t regret) and flourished.
- Waiting for kids – We were married for 8 years and were able enjoy the untethered lifestyle before choosing to settle down.
- Engaging with my kids – I chose a career with a great deal of flexibility – I work for myself basically. I never missed a spelling bee, opportunity for camping, fishing, skiing, sailing, etc. with my kids. We had stressful times between us in their teen years, but those are past and I have kids that I love and vice versa.
- Travelling – Our family has traveled to more places than I can count. Usually on a budget, but still wonderful experiences that nobody can take away from you.
- Serving others. I have used my training and vocational skills around the world to build homes, rehab wells, and provide clean water to hundreds of children.
- Continuing my education. I have two master’s degrees and working on my PhD. Whether you earn more money or not because of your education, you meet more interesting people. You also might become more interesting yourself.
Second: Some regrets
- Not starting investing as much as possible for retirement as early as I could. I have a decent amount saved, but not enough to retire. The following quote has been attributed to Albert Einstein “Compound interest is the eighth wonder of the world. He who understands it, earns it … he who doesn’t … pays it.” Whether it was actually said by Einstein is immaterial, it is true.
- Not choosing a job/career that I was passionate about. I am good at what I do, several people rely on me for their wages and many, many of my customers’ lives have been made better because of our inventions, advancements, and advice. Nevertheless, I have been working in my current field for 30+ years, without a real passion. 8–12 hours a day is a long time to spend doing something you aren’t passionate about.
- Not forgiving my parents for perceived slights. Should have done that years ago.
- Speaking when I should be listening. My careless words have caused more problems than I would care to admit. If I had spent more time listening rather than thinking about what my response would be, I could have avoided plenty of pain, both received and delivered.