This is based on the KJV biblical concept of a wife. Some of these points applies to single women as well
- DON’T Remain an unbeliever
And, behold, one came and said unto him, Good Master, what good thing shall I do, that I may have eternal life? – Matthew 19:16
And he said unto him, Why callest thou me good? there is none good but one, that is, God: but if thou wilt enter into life, keep the commandments – Matthew 19:17
Get saved! (If you haven’t already)
Come to God in a state of repentance and ask Jesus Christ to save you. Realize that you are a no-good filthy wicked sinner, and only through the blood of Jesus Christ can you be saved and live a life righteous in God’s eyes. Don’t wait until tomorrow! Don’t wait until you have gotten rid of this sin or that sin, you come to Jesus because you can’t fight your sins alone, you have tried everything but nothing worked, you are sick of your sins and your evil ways, you desperately are in need of a savior.
- DON’T Commit adultery!
Matthew 5:27 – Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:
Matthew 5:28 – But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart
Matthew 5:29 – And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell
This verse goes for the women too.
It’s just common sense, and doesn’t need a explanation. Of course don’t lust after other men than your husband!
“But what about swing…” Don’t even go there! An ‘open marriage’ is absolutely wicked, evil and not scripturel at all!
“But what if both me and my husband agrees to swinging…” NO! That does not make it ok, are you crazy? If both of you agreed to commit murder, would it be okay too? No! Just enjoy the gift of sexually intimacy between you and your husband only. That’s what God created it for.
- DON’T Dominate your husband
Understand the spiritual hierarchy
God created Eve after Adam, women are meant to be the helpmate of the men. The Bible clearly teaches in Ephesians 5,
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Well, that’s sexist! It pushes women down!! It’s demeaning, it’s …!
Wait! Keep reading:
(25) Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
(26) That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
(27) That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
(28) So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
(29) For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
See!? Husband are commanded by God to cherish, honor and love their wives. That’s not sexist. That’s the biblical roles. Women are not supposed to rule over men.
“But my husband is lazy, mean and no good!”
Well, then you shouldn’t have married him! I advise every woman to pray to God and ask him for a godly man who will cherish, honor and love her. And actually wait till God gives her one. Not go out and find him in the world, that way she’ll end up with the wrong guy.
1 Peter 3 says:
6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
You know what happens to a man who does not honor their wife? His prayers are hindered. If he wants his prayers answered, if he wants God to bless his life, he needs to honor his wife.
- DON’T be deceived by “feminism”
(This falls into the point above) Again, remember the hierarchy: God, man, woman, children. A wife are to be submissive to her husband. And you can scream and shout, but that’s how God wants it. Deal with it
- DON’T Become sterile
Forget birth control, multiply! Let God bless you with lots of children! Become a stay at home mother. You know why God made women the weaker vessel? He made women more sensitive and emotional so they could raise children. Can a man raise a child well? Probably. But women just have that gift, that ‘mother instinct’. And that’s not a demeaning thing, that’s just how God created us. But don’t misunderstand here, children needs both their parents. Single motherhood is not the ideal.
- DON’T pursue a career
This ties together with the above point. And it saddens me that, many of the others answers encourage married women to have a career (like how ridiculous is that! And ironically, the ones writing those answers are women themselves!). Having a full time job and being your family’s co-breadwinner along side your breadwinner husband is not Gods plan for married women. Who’s going to nurture the children then? The wife of course! If not, your children will suffer in the long run.
- DON’T act masculine
In more blunt words: act like a woman! Be feminine and graceful. Grow your hair long (it will bring honor to your husband) wear long dresses in modest styles. Don’t speak in a harsh deep voice or ‘walk with authority’. Embrace your femininity! Thank God for creating you as a woman.
1 Timothy 2:9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;
Modest apparel is very very important. But unfortunately many women don’t understand that.
This is much more appealing:
(So these are my suggestions, in line with scripture of course)
God bless you