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If you met an amazingly wonderful, high-quality man today, would you be able to recognize him?
Most women I speak to on a regular basis can’t answer the question above. They are often concerned with a list of qualities and accomplishments that are watered down and often shallow.
When I ask them what they’re looking for, they start listing a bunch of adjectives that most of us want; loving, giving, handsome, successful, kind, tall, etc. But if we all want the same thing, why can’t we find it?
It’s because we get stuck in the semantics rather than the character. That’s the reason women waste time on unavailable men and don’t recognize the good ones.
In truth, there are 4 crucial qualities of a good man you should be looking for in a high-quality man:
By definition: the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness
In practice, a man who has integrity is a man of his word. He keeps his promises and shows you his intention through his action. He doesn’t just talk the talk, he walks the walk. You can trust a man with integrity to follow through and show up in your relationship in a positive way.
His moral compass rules his choices and he will always choose to do the right thing in his life and by you.
Look for integrity in the small things when you first meet a man. Does he call when he says he will? Is he late to dates? Does he show integrity in his work? If he can’t show integrity with the little things, he will have a hard time showing integrity when it really matters.
Every man needs a purpose. Usually, men don’t find their purpose in a relationship or family. The relationship can fuel his purpose as he strives to provide for his family, but it is not the source of his purpose. That may be hard for women to hear, but it’s true. A man usually finds his purpose in his work and how he contributes to the world.
Look for purpose early in the relationship in how he speaks about his career and services. Is he passionate about what he does? Does he have goals? Is he excited about going to work?
This doesn’t mean that he has to be an entrepreneur or six-figure man. You can work a 9-5 and still be passionate about what you do and the difference you are making for others.
When most women hear commitment they are thinking about a committed and monogamous relationship. That is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to commitment.
Commitment fuels integrity and purpose. You must be committed to growing, learning, and having the tools in place to live in your purpose. If you are not committed to living in your purpose or to having integrity you can’t possibly be committed and have the ability to be in a relationship.
Perseverance is a key quality to look for because life isn’t always kind to you and you want to know that when things get real, your man can persevere. How does he deal with adversity and challenges in his life?
When he’s knocked down, does he get back up? Does he recommit to his purpose when he fails? Or does he let the bad times and his fears knock him down for good? Perseverance is what will keep him going and recommitting to and working on your relationship through the hard times.
In order to recognize these pillars of a high-quality man, you too must possess these qualities. So began asking yourself, do I have integrity, purpose, commitment, and perseverance?